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Friday, February 18, 2011

The little winter grasses that could


Reason for experiment with grass in the dead of winter:
My dog Maximus was dragging in tons of mud from the yard where there is no grass-grrrr! (we have a shady yard, and there are many little places with no grass at all.)

Question:If I just throw out grass seeds on my lawn in Texas in the middle of winter will they grow?

Hypothesis: Absolutely not. Why would grass grow in the winter? Every article I read on grass says to plant in spring or summer, and it just sounds like it wouldn't work. However, my friend Janie has had lots of experience planting grass, and has one of the most beautiful lawns I have ever seen. When I asked her she very calmly said, "Yes, Sarah, if you get the right kind of grass, it does wonderfully in winter". That alone was more than enough to convince me to give it a shot. It was that or spend hours and hours smearing around the layers of gooey, caked mud off the bottom of Max's feet every time it got a little wet during the winter months. (Of course he LOVES to play in the mud as he's a digger.)

Procedure:
1. I bought a hand-held grass spreader and a few bags of Rye grass from Wal-mart mid-January. The lady gave me a really funny look and then almost laughed at me when I asked if they carried grass in the winter. I think she wanted to tell me what I feel like every other person in the store was thinking as I passed by. "Umm sweetheart...you don't plant grass in the winter." At least that's how I felt. It was more likely I felt like that because I was still trying to convince MYSELF that this was a good idea. I called Janie one last time just to make sure I was getting the right thing, and let's just be honest...for moral support. I just held my head high and walked to the back and got the last three bags of Rye grass.

2.The spreading process went like this: I Sprinkle grass seed with spreader generously. I Sprinkle more grass seed with hands because I want more grass around the trees. I Put the grass spreader down and get carried away digging my hands in the bag, and just throwing the seeds around and feeling like Cinderella feeding the mice. Deciding there are probably going to be huge patches with almost no grass and little patches that look like chia pets on steroids, I pick up the spreader and try to evenly make up for my impulse throwing.

3. For the next few days I go outside way too much just to check and see if the grass has started growing. I start feeling like Toad when he tries to plant a garden and sings, play instruments, and reads poems to his plants to try and get them to grow. At one point I actually did yell "Now seeds, START GROWING!" just to see if it would make me feel better. It didn't.

3.The biggest cold-front I can remember sweeps through Texas, we have five school 'snow days' in two weeks, and the weekend retreat is postponed due to dangerous weather. At this point any hope I have of my winter grasses growing has died...just like my poor seeds.

4.I totally forget about my grass seeds after the bad weather.

5. I walk outside today to make sure Maximus hasn't dug any holes big enough that he can escape...and lo and behold this is what I see:




Conclusion: If I throw out seeds on my lawn in the middle of winter, they WILL grow! Apparently this little seed doesn't give up. Even though there were two weeks straight of sleet and snow, my little winter grasses are growing after all. I give 100% of the credit to Janie as I never ever would have tried it had it not been for her wonderful advice. Wanna have beautiful grass in the winter (in Texas anyway)? Go buy a hand-held spreader and a couple of bags of rye grass seeds and go for it!

Tips: This grass does better during the winter, and in really hot climate (Texas Summer), it apparently dies when it gets really hot. I don't care about this because it's the winter that I need the grass to prevent muddy paws from destroying my carpet.I am hoping for a long spring so I can enjoy my minimal effort grasses that could.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

A lesson in failure



I can't stop laughing. I don't know why my Twitter experience was so funny, but I just keep thinking about how hard I tried to make it work, how miserably I failed, and it just makes me laugh even harder. It's like laughing at yourself after you trip really badly. You laugh at yourself after you trip, but then you picture what you must have looked like when you tripped and you laugh even more. You can't really explain it, but it's just...funny.

Initially when hearing about Twitter, I thought, "That sounds really cool, but I don't have a use for that". I was right. Someone told me at the beginning of my experience to figure out what I wanted to use it for. I think the problem was that I never did find a use.

What I did do was feel like a huge loser because I was desperately looking for friends that
a)I actually wanted to follow and hear what they had to say
b)would follow my tweet so I wasn't talking to myself

...that's when I realized... It just all comes down to where your people are...and my people don't use twitter.


Twitter people

People that have exciting lives-My life isn't exciting enough to update people all the time about my current location-If I did, my twitter feed would look something like this:

12:01"washing dishes"

1:30 "rewashing dish that didn't get clean in cycle". Failure.

People that inform a group of people about upcoming events- Potentially this could be great to use with my youth, but I could only find one of them on twitter, and she had her profile locked (smart girl- makes a youth leader proud). In general the youth use facebook for EVERYTHING. I ended up using twitter to post on facebook...? Failure.

People that keep up with current events- I love "Wait Wait Don't Tell Me", but that doesn't mean I'm good at it." Failure.

People that network with other people that are on twitter-...Failure.

Really funny people- I would not consider myself really funny. If I'm funny, it is mostly by accident. Being really funny all the time is also really tiring.

and then there's me:

People who really want to like Twitter and wish they had a use for it...but just don't.

One of my wonderful youth, Rachel, posted this quote today on her facebook, and I would like to end this post with these words.

"Failure. Learn to do it and learn to do it well. It's the only way you get better at anything."

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Where to find free books for Kindle (Ultimate list)



So you want free books but don't want to spend hours finding them? You have come to the right place. I'm not a computer or Kindle whiz, just one Kindle owner trying to help another.

I have basically sifted through all the sites and blogs telling you how to get free kindle books, and posted all the best links in one place. No need to spend tons of time going through search results trying to figure out which sites are worth your time. I have categorized them so you know what you are getting yourself into. If you use these sites, you will have way more free books than you can read.

You might be thinking.."Okay so I really want to download books from the second list; maybe even from a format that Kindle doesn't support, but I have no earthly idea how to change the format or even how to put it on my Kindle!" Never fear, there are links that explain that as well! Hope this helps someone!


Kindle format/ easy to download list:

Free E Books Collections on Amazon- Basically all the Kindle formatted books that only take seconds to put on your kindle via wireless connection. On the right-hand side of the page there are directions as to how to put books on your kindle via USB cable. Most free e-books can be categorized one of two ways:

Limited-Time promotional offer free books- These are my favorite because these are all newer books that will only be free for a short time. They are often really good books, but make sure you check the price before you download them. Part of the gimmick is they are hoping you see them when they are free, but by the time you come to get them, they aren't free anymore but you buy them anyway. They post new free books every week, so check back to this site for the latest!

Classic free books-These will always be free because the copyrights have expired.

Latest free books on the knob-Another resource for the books that are free for a limited time. The nice thing about this is it's a blog, so you can subscribe and get updates with the latest free books delivered to you.


Much more selection but may require formatting list:

Kindle Review-tons of great links for free books.

Project Gutenberg-Site to get free books because their copyrights have expired. For an easy to read and browse list of authors and books on gutenberg go to freekindlebooks.org and scroll down

LibriVox-Free audio books

Internet Archive-Out of print books in different languages. A great academic resource.

Manybooks.net

Feedbooks.com


How to format/transfer files for Kindle and other technical questions:

Transferring, Downloading, and sending files to your Kindle

Main Kindle support page

How to change an E-Book format to put on a Kindle (eHOW)

Supersites-"Inspired to action" blog for moms





I'm not even a mom yet, and I am inspired to action by this blog!
It has tons of practical advice, ideas, and encouragement for moms and women in general.
Check it out!

Inspired to action

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Best related post widget for Blogger

The Problem: I wanted to add a related post gadget/widget for Blogger to easily help people find posts on my blog relating to the one they were currently reading. Everything I tried was either extremely complicated (past my knowledge level), had completely incorrect or old code, almost worked but had errors, or had so many steps I wanted to cry. Blogger didn't offer a "related post" gadget option, so I was on my own.


The Solution: After about two hours of searching, reading, copy/pasting, and FAILING MISERABLY, I finally came across this clean, simple, and virtually stress-free way of adding related posts to my blog. It's beautiful, easy to use, and literally takes about two minutes to do EVERYTHING. Finally. I wish I had come across this two hours ago, and maybe I would have more hair left. Please click below to save yourself hours of time, energy, and a huge headache. No need to explain anything, because, SURPRISE!, THIS website actually HAS code that functions...as smoothly as butter. No copying/pasting needed. Case closed. Use Linkwithin. Save yourself some hair.

Linkwithin

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Price matching at Wal-Mart (Is it worth it?)

Overall Rating: WORTH IT!

Description: Most of you are probably aware of this already, but you can bring in any other major grocery store ads and Wal-Mart will match any price of the sales other stores are offering. This way you can get all the best deals all in one place. Grocery stores often will have a few attention grabbing deals just to get you in their store. They know they will take a loss on these items, but they want to get you to their store and hope you buy lots more overpriced things. When you take all the store busters and put them together, you actually do get some pretty sweet deals.

Pros:
Potentially you can save TONS of money and get the name brand stuff you like for pretty darn cheap.

Have the satisfaction of being super thrifty!

My favorite- you can be randomly really nice to the other people in line with you and look in their cart to see if you they have anything you can help them save money on. I have done this a few times with awesome results. I love surprising strangers like that. Just tonight I saved the lady in front of me about $5 on just two things. The look on her face made that whole trip worth it.

If like me you sometimes just really want to go shopping, this is great way to do it because you are getting stuff you need anyway, and still fulfilling your craving to shop without buying things you don't need.

Cons:
You have to go to Wal Mart...haha (not my favorite place in the world, and sometimes my least favorite place)- although after doing this a few times, I went to Tom Thumb and felt like their prices were highway robbery. Go shopping late at night or early in the morning, and your trip will be much more pleasant.

You have to spend about 10-15 minutes looking through the ads at home and about 5 minutes showing the cashier at the checkout. So it does take a bit more time overall, but if you have the time, why not save the monies?

Tips:
IMPORTANT: You HAVE to bring in the whole store ad so they can see the dates and make sure its not really old.

They DO let you use the sales on produce and meat as long as its exactly the same thing ( ex: red seedless grapes)
(with meat they are a little more picky)

They DON'T let you use buy one get one free coupons from other stores.

They are not generally picky with what kind of that product you get as long as it doesn't say only a particular kind. Example: Sale for Tom Thumb said Wolf Chili was 79 cents a can (didn't specify which kind of chili, so I got one of the nicer ones
(homestyle) and saved over a buck on each can. I bought six cans so right there I saved about $7.

Enjoy the process-if you like bargain hunting, this is really perfect for you! Take your time, and have fun! However, If you like to get in and out of the store in ten minutes, please DO NOT do this...you will be miserable.

As with most coupon temptation, only buy things you would get anyway. That's the cool thing about shopping this way though; unlike clip coupons that are often really weird stuff you would never buy, store ads put the most common things on sale

More articles/info about price matching at Wal-mart:


How to Price Match at Walmart to Save the Most Money: eHow
Wal-Mart Offical Written policy on price matching
Video explaining how to price match at Wal-Mart

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

But I read it on Wikipedia: Where are we getting our information?

"I'm pretty sure I'm dying...oh.. and I'm pregnant," I factually tell my husband Stephen after looking up the symptoms I have been having the past few days. I was feeling very tired, having headaches, feeling sore, and a few other things that together made me think there was something wrong with me. So I headed online to try and figure out what was wrong with me. To make a long story short, by the end of my searching, I was positive I was pregnant and had now found a lump on my neck that I was sure was malignant.

I was not pregnant nor did I have cancer. So how did I come to these hasty conclusions? Where in the world was I getting my information? The answer? Sites that play into the fear people have that there is something deathly wrong with them...and I was a sucker just like the other thousands of people persuaded to believe that they too were suffering from a severe illness. As C.S Lewis puts it in his book,The Screwtape Letters, "Suspicion often creates what it suspects." The truth is that what I was feeling was my lymph node on my neck, but because of reading tons of articles that told me what I suspected (feared), that it was the symptom of something very serious, I just believed it, and started freaking out. This may sound ridiculous, and I admit in retrospect I do feel that way, but is it really that far from what we do with other sources of information? We read an article online, a chapter in a book, or hear something from someone that they heard from someone else, and before we know it, we are jumping to a conclusion that is based on nothing but some random website by some random author, that may or may not know what they are talking about. Where are we getting our information?

I have stopped looking up my symptoms online simply because the result is almost always the rationalization that there is something very wrong with me. I would claim instead that there is something very wrong with the way we decide that something is true at all. We wouldn't take as truth something some scary looking guy on a street corner shouted out in rage as we drove by; we would roll up our window and pray the light changes soon. How would we like to find out that the new idea we have been raving about, the idea we have taken as our truth, was based on that same guy's article online that we happened to run across, but because it seemed very persuasive and authoritative at the time, we have now unknowingly become the spokesperson for the crazy man yelling in a rage on the side of the street corner.

"I know it's true because I read it on the Wikipedia." I'm sure we have all heard something similar that made our eyes roll when someone claims they know what they are talking about based on something as solid as jello. Although this justification may seem ridiculous to us, how often do we get some of our ideas based on something someone told us, or something we read somewhere? How often when we read things, do we really dig deeper and spend the time finding the truth before we take for granted that the information we just read, watched, etc. is actually correct? Do we take the time and find out for ourselves, or just claim it as our own and defend it because it "feels" right and therefore it is. How many times have you "felt" something that turned out to be very, very wrong?

I can't count the number of times my emotions lead me to believe one thing, but when I dig deeper, pray, go back to my ultimate source of truth (the Bible), I realize I just wanted to believe that because it feels better, and that is me in my sinful nature wanting to justify sin by thinking "as long as I am being sincere, that's what really counts, right?" Wrong. Being sincere has nothing to do with right and wrong. A person could murder their spouse for cheating on them with all the sincerity in the world, but that by no means makes it right. That is not to say sincerity is not important, but when it becomes the basis for an action or belief, it is a very slippery slope that easily gives way to justifying sin based on emotion. Our emotions change all the time. What society says is "truth" changes all the time. The word of God NEVER changes.

I ask again: where are we getting our information?

We can hop on Google, and in a matter of seconds be reading a article about any topic with hundreds of professional-looking articles that seem to be giving accurate information. Before we know it, we are jumping to conclusions based on some crazy article whose writer is really convinced that the lies he has been reading are true... and the crazy torch is passed on.

The Bible doesn't diagnose our medical symptoms, but it does give us a foundation upon which to live our lives. If there is something in the Bible that blatantly contradicts something we have embraced as "truth", there should be cause for alarm; a red flag that is extremely dangerous to ignore. Just because it "feels" right and because we are sincere by no means makes it right. It is a hard reality that our minds and hearts often lead us down a dark path, but it should not come as a surprise that the devil uses our weaknesses against us. In the garden of Eden, Satan made eve question God's authority by twisting God's words to say what Eve wanted to hear, that she could eat the apple, and that it wasn't really sin.

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” Genesis 3:1

What or whom is the serpent in your life that is succeeding at convincing you that right is wrong and wrong is right? Now we would be foolish to think that the devil would strike in a place that we are strong in our faith. He will strike where we are weakest, in our most vulnerable time, and in ways that make us "feel" like we are justified. Evil hardly ever really looks like evil on the outside. It often looks and feels like the right thing, and we justify it in the name of love or selflessness. Our society has brain-washed people into believing that we are loving someone by never telling them things that will hurt them. True love does not always feel good. When a parent punishes a child, does that make the parent feel good? It feels awful, but because they truly love a child they will do what is best for the child even if for a time it "feels" painful to the child and to the parent. When Christ died on the cross for our sins, that was the greatest form of love that there has ever been. Do you think it felt good for Jesus to die on the cross? Do you think God was feeling warm and fuzzy inside that he had to let his own son die in agony?

Who are we listening to? The media? Political agendas? Our "feelings"? How many "likes" we get in response to our status on Facebook? Oprah? I don't think any of these things are inherently evil, but when they start to dictate how we live our lives or what we start to accept as truth, they have taken God's rightful place as the only real source of truth. When we are more worried about what men will think than what God will think about our actions, words, and thoughts, that should remind us that we need to check back in with the only Righteous judge and the only one to whom will we ever answer.


1 In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who will judge the living and the dead, and in view of his appearing and his kingdom, I give you this charge: 2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction. 3 For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. 4 They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths. 5 But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry. 2 Timothy 4:1-5

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

How to Bargain Hunt like a pro: Part Two- Off Price




This is all about how to find the best bargains at "off-price" stores.

A few things to keep in mind before you walk in to one of these stores:

1.Don't be too specific-
Sometimes we walk in knowing exactly what we are looking for, but at places like this, you will have a much better time if you go just enjoying yourself and hopefully find a few things that are a great price. If you have this one particular thing in a particular color that you want...you may not find it.

2. The stores do not look fancy- Part of the way you get such a big discount is that they cut down on unnecessary decorations to make the store look "cool". Sometimes (more with stores at the bottom of the list), they may even start to look a little cluttered or disorganized. Most of the time, it's not a big deal, but just don't have the expectation that you will walk into a store that looks like the loft, or you will be highly disappointed. The reason The Loft looks so beautiful is so they can draw your attention to the fun posters and models, and away from the fact that they are charging you way to much for your clothes. Keep that in mind, and keep your expectations realistic. The prices at these stores speak for themselves.

3. Be picky about how much you buy- I will say it from experience. It is easy to walk into a store like this, and because you can afford most everything, you want to buy all of it. Not a good idea. I find that buying a few things that I really really like is much better in the long run that buying a ton of things that looked awesome at the time but you don't end up using them. A good rule to follow: only get things that are actually filling a hole in a need that you already have. Getting things you have never thought about before means you haven't needed them yet, and you probably won't in the future.

Although finding clearance at almost any store is always an option, if you want to be sure that everything in the whole store is at least 20-60% off, the best way to shop is at the stores that buy new things from other stores and mark them way down (off-price). These are the nation-wide off-price stores I know of in no particular order, but please comment and share your own!

Big Lots
Ross
Marhalls
Tuesday Morning
Home Goods
TJ Maxx



MYTH: Merchandise at off-price stores is either from last season, or has something seriously wrong with it.

REALITY: After shopping at these stores for over 15 years, I have rarely come across anything that has a huge defect. Once you understand where these stores get their merchandise from and why, you can put your skepticism to rest.

How and why most of these stores get their merchandise:
Most of the time, off-price stores get their merchandise because another store
(like Macy's for example) ordered too many of a particular item. They sell it to a store like TJ Maxx for a very reduced price, and that enables TJ Maxx to sell you the exact same product you see at Macy's for 20-60% off. More than once, I have had a friend bought something from a store at full price, and in the same season I will buy the same thing for 1/4 of what they paid. The look on their face when I tell them how much I paid is priceless. A few times I have purchased something full price myself, and then I saw it a few months later at an off-price store for a fraction of the price. Needless to say I was kicking myself that I didn't just wait a little bit.

Though the majority of the merchandise at stores like this comes from buying overstock, they do also buy merchandise that is from a previous season or has a small defect. Often times if there is a defect, they will take an additional % off of the price (see "Bargain Hunting like a pro: Part One- The Basics" for how to do this and to get the most off at retail stores).


The above stores vary in quality and style of merchandise they carry. I will give a description of each as well as where to go for what.

Home Goods
This is a store dedicated to "home goods". You won't find clothes here, but they have just about everything you could ever want for your home. Pots and pans, area rugs, bathroom accessories, and lighting of all shapes and sizes. Everything in their store is high quality, and in my opinion the best selection of home goods anywhere. I would recommend anything in this store. This is a really fun shopping experience. For the most part, the store is neatly kept,and even if you don't end up buying that much, it is so fun to look around and know that you could if you wanted to! NOTE: Many times, Home Goods and Marshall's will be right next to each other, or even connected!


TJ Maxx
This is most upscale of all the stores that carry clothing. You will find very expensive brands here, so overall the prices tend to be a little higher than Ross or Marshalls, but you are getting clothing and household items that cost a fortune at full price. There is even a section in some stores called "Runway at Maxx" that carries clothing from American and European designers. Basically everything in the this store is top of the line merchandise, and you can really get awesome clearance finds at the end of the season. I have noticed that there home goods department does NOT have the best selection.


Marshalls
This store is owned by the same company as home goods and TJ Maxx. This is a still very nice, and even more affordable version of TJ Maxx. This is personally my favorite store for clothes. Most of the brands are very well made, but you still walking away with a Nine West Dress for $20.00. They have a good selection of Home goods and accessories, but they are priced a little higher than other stores below mainly because they are nicer brands. They have a very organized shoe department, and overall this is your best bet for a store that has a good selection of clothing and home goods in the same place.

Ross
I'll cut to the chase on this one. Ross has the best selection and the best prices for accessories and home goods. They are nice quality, and I ALWAYS go here first for purses and shoes. In my experience, the adult clothing is NOT the best quality I will say that they do have a good selection of clothes for kids and teenagers who will be growing out of their clothes anyway. For adults however, if you want your clothes to last a long time, I would go to Marshall's instead. This store can be very disorganized at times and frustrating to shop in, but most of the time you walk away with such a sweet deal (a pair of really nice dress shoes for $15.00), and suddenly it was all worth it.

Tuesday Morning
This is store for knick knacks. Personally, I don't shop here much unless I need something that is not very "mainstream" in the above stores. (Ex: a portable dog house). If you need something like monogrammed napkins or a bird bath, this the the perfect place. The prices are moderate and sometimes more than I want to pay, but they are still much cheaper than full price, and it is honestly your best bet if you are looking for a strange item. As you have probably gathered, it is somewhat of a random store, but most of their merchandise is pretty nice, and I will say they have lots of "fun" things. Note: The isles are close together and most of the time they are pretty small, so a double-wide stroller is a no-go.

Big Lots
Big Lots is a good place if you need more than one of an item. Most of the places above won't have household goods in bulk or look like a normal store in that there is often only one or two of everything. Big lots almost looks like a glorified dollar general. They do carry furniture, accessories, household items, and even some groceries. There is a little bit of everything.It a way, it reminds me of a nicer, personal-sized, Wall-Mart.

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Notes to self



I'm in a hurry to get things done.
Oh I rush and rush until that's no fun.
All I really gotta do is live and die,
but I'm in a hurry and don't know why.

SLOW DOWN. That is the phrase I repeat to myself over and over these days. As I was giving myself a mental pep talk, I started thinking there are a lot of really simple things I loose sight of when things get stressful or busy.

My dad has had a list of "rules for life" on the refrigerator for as long as I can remember. I decided to start one of my own. This is only the beginning of what will surely be a novel when is is completed. At least I have something to help me remind myself what matters when I need it most. I'm aware that these will be completely random. I will categorize later.


Notes to self: Chapter One


Being stressed about what is five steps ahead will inevitably make you miss opportunities in the present moment. Do not worry about tomorrow. That's what trusting God is all about. Prepare for tomorrow, but live fully and passionately today.

Drink in life. Each moment has the potential to be infinitely rich with God's wonder and grace. Look for God in every moment and he will be there just waiting for you. Every color does dazzle and every light does blaze. It's all about looking at the sunset long enough to be in awe of the painter who took so much care just for our viewing pleasure. Don't let God's artistic genius go unappreciated. It's like when you spend all day cleaning the house for someone you love and they don't even notice.

Life is too short to be resentful or bitter. Besides the fact that it is so exhausting to try and stay mad, it is such a greater challenge to find God's beauty in everyone. Remember that he made them, and they too were made in HIS image. Like Mother Teresa did, look for Christ in everyone, and by serving them you are serving Christ himself.

Forgive easily and don't be afraid to apologize first. There is no rule that says if you're "right" the other person should apologize first. A relationship is so much more important than winning a fight. Chances are that if you feel like you are "winning" a fight, it is really the devil who is winning because he is tearing your relationship apart and hardening your heart against the other person with pride and stubbornness. Don't let him win. Turning the other cheek and letting Christ heal your relationship with that person is the true victory, not to mention showing the devil he has no control over you; It is God rules your life, not sin.

Be patient with yourself. God is not done with you yet. Though it seems at every corner you are letting yourself down and failing your own expectations, remember that God does not expect you to be perfect. He does expect that you get back up, take what you have learned, and try again to be more like him. God intended for us to work hard. Never give up. Never surrender.

Don't forget the best drug ever: laughter. Laugh until your ribs hurt and then some or you are literally about to pee your pants...often. Don't take yourself seriously, and if you can genuinely laugh at yourself, life will be a lot more pleasant...I mean, come on...you know you must do pretty funny things sometimes (and not on purpose.) Heaven forbid you ever become a "serious" person. :)


Take that opportunity to help someone in need. I can vividly remember those times that either someone helped me when I was in desperate need of help, or I was given the chance to help someone else like that. At first it may seem like a nuisance to have to stop what you are doing and possibly delay your plans, but on a day to day basis, you will be able to do so much more if your plans are not so rigid you can't help carry something for an elderly woman, or help push some random guy's car across the parking lot to the car shop. We shouldn't have to know someone to be willing to love them. Besides, we do know them; they are a child of God and therefore more than worthy of all the love and compassion we have to offer. These are the moments that we open the door for God to work in their lives in amazing ways. Show them love that is not of this world, and regardless of the reaction they have, that is how Christ's army separates themselves; that is how we fight.

That's all for now.

Thursday, April 22, 2010

The REAL definitions of false estate.




So We are about to close on our house in a week...hopefully. My list of lessons learned...the hard way, in a market that is truly backward.

The REAL definitions of false estate.

Short Sale- The opposite of the name. Extremely long and tedious make you want to pull your hair out sale.

Realtor- The person that can pretty much make or break just about everything having to do with your house. NEVER pick a random realtor. Period. Do not choose them unless they have a high recommendation from someone who you trust. Your realtor must be someone who you can trust...mostly.

"Christian" Mortgage Broker- Someone who is a nice Christian person who is also a mortgage broker. These two don't necessarily have anything to do with the other. A really nice person that loves God can still want to charge you ridiculous fees for closing. It doesn't mean they are a bad Christian. They just make their living off of you. It's business. Remember that. If you find a better deal from a huge company that may or may not be Christian, you are not mean because you want to get a cheaper interest rate. You are also a nice person that just wants the best deal they can get. It's business.


Random things to remember

Expect nothing- Always expect the worst to happen, and you might be pleasantly surprised. If you plan for everything to go smoothly, you might ACTUALLY pull your hair out.

Humor- I honestly think that you must have a sense of humor when house shopping. Just last week, I went into a house that one of us walked in and immediately RAN out of because it smelled so strongly of fecal matter, ridiculously strong chemicals, and dead people. I will remember that house for the rest of my life. However disgusting that was, once we had left and vowed to all take showers and Clorox our shoes, we couldn't stop laughing. It was so putrid that it was really really funny. It was either that or cry. You will inevitably encounter some crazy crazy houses, and you are truly missing out if you don't look for the humor in the things that repulse you. Go house shopping with your inner-comedian ready, and hilarity WILL ensue.

Ideas to make house shopping more fun if you can't find the humor:

* Make up stories about who lived in the house before (endless fun)
* Imagine how someone had lived in the ridiculously designed space/ create your own ad for the house based on its flaws ( You don't want to miss this house! Cut down on getting ready in the morning. Go to the bathroom WHILE taking a a shower!)
*Take pictures with or posing in some ridiculous part of the house


The "House-Spouse" Philosophy
Initially, pick your house as if you were picking a spouse. Keep a mental list of the must-haves, nice to haves, and bonus categories very clear in your mind. If it does not meet your must-haves list, move on before you fall for the nice to haves or flashy bonus. It is easy to "fall in love" with a house, but do whatever you have to do to guard your heart from the wrong house. Even if a house seems perfect, like any "perfect" person that we fall in love with, we soon find that they are far from being so. Choose wisely, but getting caught up with aesthetic qualities is a slippery slope that will take you straight to a huge money pit...not to mention ulcers and living on beans. Sound glamorous now? Yeah, so there is a reason that there is a Bible song that goes

"Don't build your house on the sandy land,
don't build it too near the shore,
Oh it might be kinda nice, but you'll have to build it twice,
yeah you'll have to build your house once more.
You better build your house upon the rock,
make a good foundation on a solid spot,
Oh the storms may come and go,
but the peace of God you will know."

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